Ask the Coach - Struggling to be Positive
Ask the Coach - Struggling to be Positive
Dear Coach,
Of late I have struggled with remaining positive and upbeat and although COVID took a toll on my emotional state I have always been able to bounce back. I don’t know if it is the continued uncertainty, continuing to work virtually or simply being down because of dark days etc.
I may speak to a social worker or perhaps a therapist but before I do that, I wondered if you have any pointers on how I can take better care of my well being.
Thank in advance for your guidance.
Thank you for being so open and honest with issues that many people are experiencing.
First, let me start by saying that mental health includes emotional, psychological, and social well-being.
Looking after your well-being means actively practicing self care and self care means taking the time do things that help you live well and improve both your physical health and mental health. When it comes to your mental health, self-care can help you manage stress, lower your risk of illness, and increase your energy. Even small acts of self-care in your daily life can have a big impact.
According to Harvard Medical School, The New England Journal of Medicine and several other resources I use in my daily practice, the following tools may prove helpful in your quest to take better care of yourself.
Get regular exercise. Just 30 minutes of walking every day can help boost your mood and improve your health. Small amounts of exercise add up, so don’t be discouraged if you can’t do 30 minutes at one time.
Eat healthy, regular meals and stay hydrated. A balanced diet and plenty of water can improve your energy and focus throughout the day. Also, limit caffeinated beverages such as soft drinks or coffee.
Make sleep a priority. Stick to a schedule, and make sure you’re getting enough sleep. Blue light from devices and screens can make it harder to fall asleep, so reduce blue light exposure from your phone or computer before bedtime.
Try a relaxing activity. Explore relaxation or wellness programs or apps, which may incorporate meditation, muscle relaxation, or breathing exercises. Schedule regular times for these and other healthy activities you enjoy such as journaling.
Set goals and priorities. Decide what must get done now and what can wait. Learn to say “no” to new tasks if you start to feel like you’re taking on too much. Try to be mindful of what you have accomplished at the end of the day, not what you have been unable to do.
Practice gratitude. Remind yourself daily of things you are grateful for. Be specific. Write them down at night or replay them in your mind.
Focus on positivity. Identify and challenge your negative and unhelpful thoughts.
Stay connected. Reach out to your friends or family members who can provide emotional support and practical help.
Self-care looks different for everyone, and it is important to find what you need and enjoy. It may take trial and error to discover what works best for you. In addition, although self-care is not a cure for mental illnesses, understanding what causes or triggers your mild symptoms and what coping techniques work for you can help manage your mental health.
Wishing you well – and remember, Spring is right around the corner and often with that comes a renewed sense of well being.
Best,
Merrill
Ref: Harvard Medical School\
New England Journal of Medicine
We have the pleasure of joining forces with Merrill Pierce, a Professional Certified Coach (PCC) accredited by Corporate Coach U, and a member of the International Coach Federation (ICF). She is also an accredited member of Society of Organizational Learning (SOL), and an Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR) mediator certified by the ADR Institute of Canada.
Merrill has spent over 20 years working at a number of Fortune 500 companies, of which 10 years were at the senior executive level. This background provides her with a solid and practical understanding of personal and professional issues, challenges, and concerns. Merrill is also a regular contributor to the media and has published several articles and white papers on business related topics.
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